And the LORD God said, “ It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” (Genesis 2:18 NKJV)
Let’s be real for a moment. Women are God’s gift to man. If you don’t believe me, read Genesis 2:18. At the end of creating everything, God looked at the man he created and said it’s not good for man to be alone. Basically God says life without women is not good.
Ladies, the life you have to offer a man is filled with God’s goodness. But you need to be able to tell the difference between a man who just wants goodness from your life to make himself happy and a man who wants your goodness in his life to share happiness. I’ve been both so let me explain.
Early in my dating years I evaluated women based on what I could get out of them. If she had “the goods” then I wanted what she had. If she looked good, made me feel good, and was good to me then it was all good.
Those women were basically social possessions I used to benefit my life, not theirs. I was always alone in my heart and mind even if I was in a relationship. If the relationship ended, I’d just move on to the next source. Almost any willing woman would do.
However, when I began to consider marriage I became a different man. I was no longer looking for what I could get to make me happy. I starting looking for someone with whom I could share a life of happiness. I was looking for someone to deliver my heart and mind from constantly being alone.
I was looking for someone to do life with. Spiritually, mentally, and emotionally I was transforming into husband material and the only thing that could make me happy was a wife. “Any woman” just wouldn’t do. I didnt realize it then but my wife, Melissa, is the fulfillment of Genesis 2:18 in my life. When I think about life without her it feels cold, dark, discouraging, and alone. It’s not good to be alone.