My wife is an incredible cook. I knew I had a winner the first time she made biscuits from scratch when we were dating. Over the years, she has prepared my favorite meals and she knows my appetite (my favorite ingredient is “seconds”). After eating her cooking, I’m satisfied and can’t eat any more if I tried.
Relationships work the same way. Keeping your spouse satisfied and filled with love should be your primary objective. Let’s look at a scenario from the bible.
“Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the young women love you!”
Song of Solomon 1:3 NIV
The woman in Song of Solomon has a great guy. He’s popular with the ladies and gets lots of attention. In modern times this dynamic could easily cause problems in relationships. It’s hard to trust your mate when everyone is flirting with them. Many men and women become jealous and resentful when their mate gets too much attention. Too many likes on Facebook, or too many social conversations with coworkers can be a source of insecurity and strife. So what should a woman do when her man is surrounded by admirers? Feed him.
Just like a good meal, if your spouse is filled with your love, he won’t desire affection from someone else. Look at the woman’s response in Song of Solomon.
“Take me away with you—let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers. We rejoice and delight in you; we will praise your love more than wine. How right they are to adore you!”
Song of Solomon 1:4 NIV
Let me paraphrase this scripture: “I know the ladies like you but take me to the bedroom and I’ll make you forget about them.” Instead of becoming resentful or jealous she responded with more love. This woman is keeping her man so full and satisfied he won’t need to look for love somewhere else. She’s not putting it off until tomorrow or some special occasion or when she feels up to it. She says let us hurry!
Ladies. If your mate is looking at other women, it may be because he’s not seeing enough of you. If he’s giving someone else his attention it’s probably because you’re not giving him the attention he needs. If you don’t want to be bothered, someone else will. Trust God to help you satisfy your spouse and strengthen your relationship.