Yesterday, I went to the Chambers County Property Tax Auction in Alabama. During the auction we were bidding on properties that were described as “lots with improvements” (meaning it had a house or building on it), “lots” (meaning they were empty), or “acres” (meaning it was several acres of undeveloped land). When one particular empty lot drew several bids, a man seated in front of me asked “what can you do with an empty lot?”
That Got me thinking. Sometimes dating can be a lot like buying real estate. We find some people who are immature and undeveloped like raw acres. We may find people who are ready to start a family like lots with improvements that have houses on them. We may also find some people are like empty lots with no structure to nurture and shelter a family.
And the Lord God said, “ It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” (Genesis 2:18 NKJV)
God suggested Adam needed a family, but when God created Adam he wasn’t ready. He was mature but he was an empty lot and didn’t have the key improvements necessary to sustain a family. So God transformed Adam from an empty lot to a lot with improvements in verses 8-17. Here’s a quick list.
1. God put Adam in a place where He could feed and provide for Adam. Genesis 2:8-9
2. God gave Adam a job to tend the garden. Genesis 2:15
3. God spoke to Adam giving him a relationship with God. Genesis 2:16
4. God gave Adam a personal responsibility to honor His word. Genesis 2:16-17
Once these improvements were made in Adam’s life, God concluded he needed a family. Ladies, (and men) if you’re dating someone who can’t sustain themselves, isn’t working in their God given purpose, doesn’t have a relationship with God, and fails to honor His word, you’ve got an empty lot. What can you really expect to do with an empty lot? Getting an empty lot and hoping it will improve on it’s own is insane. Trying to improve on it yourself without the skills is foolish.
Only God can transform a person who is an empty lot into a lot with improvements. So don’t let the excitement of dating cause you to chase after empty people who don’t have what it takes to create a family.