One of the biggest barriers to conflict resolution is hightened emotions. It’s hard to approach someone to resolve a conflict when you’re hurting inside. It’s hard to even entertain the idea of resolving conflicts when your anger is calling for vengeance. In some cases our feelings are so strong nothing a person says or does can appease us. We’re too hurt to forgive and too angry to forget. Here are a few tips for getting emotions under control.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6, 7 NKJV)
Before we run off to vent our feelings with friends, coworkers, or classmates, we need to talk to God. When we submit ourselves to him and pray about how we feel, three things will happen; he will give us his perspective on everything, peace that surpasses all understanding, and protection for our hearts and minds.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.” (Galatians5:22, 23 NKJV)
“But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness,” (2 Peter 1:5, 6 NKJV)